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FEB 15, 2026
A reflection on how being “low maintenance” can actually be self-abandonment. This post walks through the moment you realize you’ve been performing love by becoming smaller and how you start choosing yourself again.
FEB 15, 2026
I’m turning 31 this year and I’m rebuilding everything at the same time.
Hair. Wardrobe. Standards. Money. Circle. Faith. Identity. All of it. At once.
And I know how that sounds. People hear “I’m rebuilding everything” and they think breakdown, she must’ve hit rock bottom.
A big sis–led space for women who are done negotiating with themselves. Submit your real-life situations. Get the correction. Walk away with clarity, not just comfort.
Submit what's happening in your life. We'll dissect the root, not just the surface.
3–5 real situations broken down live. Everyone learns. Everyone grows.
Behavioral reflection prompts from your Grown Girl Journal that move you from knowing to doing.
Meet Ashli
The advice your mother should've gave you.
I'm Ashli and I'm turning 31 while rebuilding everything at the same time. After walking away from a marriage, a version of myself that everyone was comfortable with, and standards that barely existed, I decided to stop negotiating with myself.
Grown Girl Confessions is where I process it out loud, not for sympathy, but so the next woman doesn't have to learn it the hard way. The vulnerability is the setup. The correction is the point.
I'm also the founder of She Rich Digital, a strategic advisory firm for women-led businesses. Author of The Mind Reset and Triggered. And the big sis you probably needed a long time ago.
